The events of the past week or so have been shocking, no matter what side of the fence you stood on during the speeches given last Friday. It is here that we must take a step back and breath. Really close your eyes right now, take in a huge inhale from your nose, and exhale a sigh out of your mouth. Think of letting go of everything except this present moment; except for the words written here on this page.
The important thing to keep in mind is that things have happened. Our reality, such as it is, has taken shape. The question now is, ‘what’s next?’ What do we do now that we are in the reality we are in. Whether you are for or against the current present of the United States, the question that still remains is ‘what am I supposed to do now?’ Still lets break down that question. If you are against the new president of the United States, you might be riddled with fear and anxiety; if you are for, you might be waiting on things to ultimately ‘get back to greatness’. Either way, you are faced with a long uncertain path ahead, and it is time to make some choices for the future.
Here is the thing, the future can never be known. For all we know this is an elaborate rouse that will be quelled in the next six months by some unforeseeable event. Or, more likely, things will continue to progress as they are; as we are left to pick up the pieces of what is happening. We are left, on either side, with a pit in our stomachs of great unknown.
So then maybe we can look to the past, and maybe see a pattern to prepare ourselves for what is next. Again this is nothing so written in stone. For as we are all aware the winners write the history, and everything else is left to either be buried, burned, or forgotten. So looking back is like looking over your shoulder at a many forked path laden with a thickening fog as dense as cream soup.
To throw in an over used, but most appropriate quote here, “Yesterday’s history, tomorrow a mystery, today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present”. The fact of the matter is, there is no clear answer to the question ‘what’s next?’ There is no clear way to prepare forward. Either being optimistic or pessimistic; we are all stuck at the same fork in the road scratching our heads and wondering where to turn.
We should play to our conscious. We should insure that everyone has the right to be happy, granted they are not physically attacking anyone. We should move on with our lives, sleeping with one eye open in anticipation of the next big wave. We should educate ourselves through first hand facts, and not second hand accounts, as best as we can. We should read between the lines, and make sure that the sources we lean on have credit to them. Most importantly we should remove the idea of Taboo subjects from the dinner table, the social scene, and any where else we might find conversation. We should openly and honestly listen the those whom differ in idea, and speak from truthful facts and places. We need to keep conversation flowing, be vulnerable as well as compassionate.
The truth of the matter is, we are all here together. We will all be effected by anything that happens in the future. We could be blinded by hate, anger, and misrepresentation; or we could have a dialogue and work from compromise. That’s how good relationships work right? Communication and compromise? I like this show, you like that show, we watch this other show that we both like together. If we can not find room to compromise in a relationship what happens? Either one of us looses all sense of self and becomes suicidal and depressed, or we leave. Pack our bags and break up. However, when we feel that the relationship is worth it, we stay, we fight tooth and nail, we scream until something breaks, and a compromise is born. It is never easy; but in this situation we have little choice.
Compromise. It is a scary word in the political world. No one wants to think of compromising their civil liberties, their rights, or their morals. However, there is also a beautiful different definition to this word, even in politics. I disagree with this proposition on a moral level, I disagree with not having this proposition on a moral level; however by having the proposal it is not forcing anyone to partake, but is allowing others to live free. So I will not partake in this proposition because I disagree, but I will not stop it because all people are entitled to live free. Compromise. It is something as simple as, you like that show, I like this show, we can both watch our own shows when we are not together. No one is forced into anything.
Compromise. It is born out of open and compassionate dialogue. Dialogue that we should all be having, particularly with people with whom we disagree. We need to stop thinking from just our own point of view, but that of the people with whom we disagree. When we have open dialogue we can learn, we can educate, and, most of all we can reach compromise. We can find middle ground that keeps all people sated.
Compromise is not easy. It is a daunting and difficult task. It is asking us to face uncomfortable realities that we may have chosen to ignore because it made us more comfortable; but no one grows in comfortably. We grow from change, and from uncomfortable conversations. Compromise can take hours, days, weeks, even years to strike; but it can be found. Dialogue can be had. We all just have to step back, take a breath, and open our ears and hearts.
Practice in Peace and Love ❤